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What is gay sex?

Once you've found out there are gay people out there, and plenty of them at that, you might well wonder: what do they actually do? What is gay sex?

In a nutshell, it's any sort of sexual activity between two members of the same sex. Obviously, this can be unconventional: the combinations are not quite the same. Instead of a penis and vagina, there are two penises or two vaginas. Well, reproduction is not going to happen, but there are plenty of things gay people can do together to express their love and feel pleasure.

Is gay sex the same as anal sex?

A lot of gay men - though not most - enjoy having anal sex. This is when one partner inserts his penis into the other's anus. This might seem an odd thing to be doing, and some people find the whole idea unpleasant or 'dirty'. You don't have to have anal sex just because you're gay - though many straight people do it too - but if you'd like to try, it can be very pleasurable.

If you do, use a condom and lots of water-based or silicone-based lubricants - never oil or baby oil, which destroy condoms.

Where does the pleasure come from?

A lot of the pleasure from anal sex comes just from the feeling of being with your lover. It is also a physical pleasure because of the number of nerve endings in and around the anus, which are stimulated during sex.

Then there's what's become known as the male 'G-spot', which lies inside the rectum, on the side towards your penis. This is where the 'prostate gland' is located, which can be very pleasurably stimulated from the inside. The prostate gland is where prostatic fluid is secreted, which is the main component of semen.

To massage the prostate can greatly increase the pleasure a man has when reaching orgasm and it is even possible to reach orgasm without touching the penis while practising anal sex.

Top or Bottom?

Some gay men think of themselves as a 'top' or a 'bottom'. These terms are used by gay men to signify whether they enjoy active or passive anal sex - that is, whether they are on the giving or receiving end of things. Some people enjoy both and so describe themselves as 'versatile'. Don't let these or any other labels bother you. Do, when you're ready and with someone you love, enjoy finding out what you like, if you like anal sex at all.

Other things gay people do to have sex

Just like straight people, gay people have plenty of scope to pleasure themselves and each other. They can use their hands, their mouths - indeed their whole bodies - along with their imaginations. Mutual masturbation and oral sex are very popular. Others like 'rimming', which is licking the anus, though you should know that this is not a safe sex practice and some STIs can be transmitted this way.

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